My life was a
disaster. My husband didn’t love me. He would not give me children. I was
unable to conceive. We were headed for divorce. And then I met Dr. X, a
spellcaster. In no time, our problems were solved. Now we have a happy loving
family with three children, and I owe it all to Dr. X.
Crazy? Perhaps. But I get one or more of these comments
almost every day. You don’t see them because I mark them as spam and get rid of
them. They are spam, right? Usually the grammar errors and unnatural language
give them away as not having been written by real people. But some of these
comments sound so logical that I’m tempted to publish them. What if they were
real?
If somebody offered you a magic spell that would solve your
problems with your partner and enable you to have all the children you wanted,
wouldn’t you try it? Don’t we all wish someone would wave a magic wand and take
all of our troubles away?
When I was still fertile, there were times I hoped to become magically pregnant, despite birth control and reluctant husbands, but it didn't happen. The Virgin Mary is the only one who got pregnant without sperm meeting egg. As a Christian, the closest I can get is asking God for a
miracle. Is that the same thing? I can hear God up in heaven echoing what my
mother used to say: “I don’t do miracles on demand. Figure it out yourself.”
The truth is, we have to work out our own lives. Instead of
a magic spell, we have to do the work to make our dreams come true. Sometimes
that means making the difficult decision to leave someone we love. Sometimes it
means staying with that person even if we disagree on important issues, like
children, and loving them anyway. Sometimes it means talking out a resolution,
even though the hardest thing in the world is talking about it. And sometimes
it means looking around and realizing that you are surrounded by wonderful children
you can love, even though you didn’t give birth to them and even though it
hurts sometimes.
If only someone could cast a magic spell and fix all our
problems. Do you believe it’s possible? What would you ask for if you could? And
what miracles can you work all by yourself?
2 comments:
As an evangelical Christian I hear of such testimonies and have often prayed for one myself. So yes I still believe in miracles; however I also believe it's not that simple. A person has to take care of themselves, ie drink plenty of water, exercise, go easy on the cookies and pizza and on and on. Can God bypass bad health and give a woman a baby? Sure but that is where faith comes in. Either you have it or you don't. My faith is tested in the area of infertility more than any other area in my life. The short answer is yes I believe in miracles; the long answer is yes but it's a bigger picture such as health challenges, age, other family dynamics, one's calling in life plus their own personal goals -------all those factors rolled into 1 big 'I choose to trust God to know what's best for me' is how I get by. I know it's different for everyone. Some will turn their nose up at my simplistic response while others say 'ok that's your prerogative'. Although I want a baby, I'm not one of those women who must have a child to feel 'complete' or to feel 'like a woman' so I come at this from a different angle. If I do have a baby it won't become my identity like so many women I see. Such a touchy subject Sue, always gets me thinking (and rambling).
Thank you, Ruthie. I agree. God can give us miracles, but He also wants us to do our part. And then trust He knows what he's doing.
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