Friday, September 7, 2012

A picnic basket for the childless

Dear friends,
Occasionally I need to gather up the miscellany and  put it all into a picnic basket for you to savor. Here goes:

"Creating a new life for yourself as a childless woman" at Gateway-women.com offers comfort and ideas for digging ourselves out of the pity trench and moving on.

"But Who will Love Me When I'm Old?" at braveintrovert.com addresses the question that plagues many of us. If we don't have children, who will be there for us?

Then there's "What if you don't want children, but your husband or partner does?" at the Children or Not blog. It's a twist on the question at the heart of this blog and my book. What if you're the one who doesn't want kids?

Yesterday, a friend told me she has found the daughter she gave up for adoption more than 40 years ago. Now she's a grown woman with a daughter of her own. She said she hesitated to tell me because she knew I was sensitive on the subject. I knew I should be happy for her, and I am, but mostly I wanted to wail right there in the mall. Why couldn't it be me showing off a photo of my daughter and granddaughter? Know what I mean?

If you happen to be in or near Lincoln County, Oregon, I'm leading a discussion on childlessness this Sunday at 2:30 p.m. at the South Beach Community Center. It's free, including refreshments. I'll tell my story, share a little from my book, then invite everyone to talk about it. If you live a little farther away, would you be interested in having me come lead a similar discussion in your town? Let me know at sufalick@gmail.com.

Have a great weekend.

2 comments:

Anonymous said...

Hi Sue, I bought your book and have started reading it. It's hard to put down. Thanks for sharing your story. It's different than mine, but I can still relate. God bless.

Sue Fagalde Lick said...

Thanks. Spread the word.