Greetings,
I have resisted doing this blog for a while because I should be working on my book by this title, but so many women have contacted me and visited the "Childless resources" page on my web site that it seems like a conversation that is dying to happen. People can't wait until I get the book behind covers. Plus thoughts and happenings keep coming up that don't/won't fit into a book or an article. So let's blog a bit. I admit up front that I am a professonal writer doing books and articles on the childless thing, and I promise I will not use your comment without your permission. That said, here's my situation:
I have been married twice. Husband number one didn't want children, although he didn't tell me that until a few years in. It was always wait till he finishes college, wait till he gets a good job, wait till we buy a house. Then there came a time when I thought I might be pregnant, and his tune changed to: if you have a baby, I'm leaving. Ouch. I wasn't pregnant, but it didn't work out anyway. Husband number two, a wonderful older man who already had three children, didn't want any more kids. He had had a vasectomy. I thought he might change his mind, but he didn't. So now I have just reached menopause with no kids of my own and three steps I'm not close to. I regret not having children, but at the same time I know that I have done a lot of things in my life that I could not have done if I were a mother.
So that's the deal. Missed my chance, but maybe that's what God had in mind for me.
I'll be sharing stories, statistics, comments, etc., here. I welcome you to join me. Be forewarned that I don't consider myself "childfree." I'm "childless." There's a difference.
Sue
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I'm so glad to have fond your blog- finally a women who is the EXACT situation I find my self in now. My husband and I have been been together for 10 years, married for 3. He was always reluctant to have kids, but promised to have a child with me because he loved me. About a month ago, shortly after a pregnancy "scare" he finally came clean and admitted that he lied and that he does not want kids. So I'm in the early stages of it and I don't want to leave him and throw 10 years away to start over. I look forward to reading your blog and finding others who know what I'm going through. Thank YOU!
ReplyDeleteWelcome, Cortney. I hope we can help you through this.
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