tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4953607740696523736.post949303165981470680..comments2023-07-21T06:19:27.125-07:00Comments on Childless by Marriage: Grandmother GriefSue Fagalde Lickhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14740379397806418651noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4953607740696523736.post-37359032273254928542011-11-05T03:22:05.936-07:002011-11-05T03:22:05.936-07:00I am childless by marriage (x3!). My husband has g...I am childless by marriage (x3!). My husband has grown-children, and I have become "grandma" to his daughter's babies. <br /><br />My step-daughter's mother is deceased, so I am the only grandma her children will ever know. How wonderful it is to have a child sit on my lap and say, "I love you, grandma."<br /><br />But it is also a reminder of what I never had. They are not MY children.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4953607740696523736.post-69511007162459341092009-01-24T08:50:00.000-08:002009-01-24T08:50:00.000-08:00I just wanted to clarify that I don't think it is ...I just wanted to clarify that I don't think it is ENTIRELY vanity that drives the desire for children - I certainly wouldn't want you to think I am dismissing your yearnings as "just vanity". It's mutli-faceted and highly complicated.<BR/><BR/>And of course there is an aspect of vanity to NOT having children - I am witnessing my friends' very real struggles with their body image after giving birth. I know a woman in her 60s who, 30+ years after having children, still blames herself for her pot belly - and her husband also chided her for being 'lazy'. <BR/><BR/>Complexities abound!french panichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08387613398913818918noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4953607740696523736.post-68904763243117849382009-01-20T21:06:00.000-08:002009-01-20T21:06:00.000-08:00Thank you, Jenny.Thank you, Jenny.Sue Fagalde Lickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14740379397806418651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4953607740696523736.post-33327132862594053712009-01-20T19:09:00.000-08:002009-01-20T19:09:00.000-08:00That's a lovely, touching post.JennyThat's a lovely, touching post.<BR/><BR/>JennyAn iMperfect wIfehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15514662401918962637noreply@blogger.com