tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4953607740696523736.post8698412660462677242..comments2023-07-21T06:19:27.125-07:00Comments on Childless by Marriage: What's wrong with wanting a baby?Sue Fagalde Lickhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14740379397806418651noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4953607740696523736.post-52462238946006869502008-05-10T16:40:00.000-07:002008-05-10T16:40:00.000-07:00sue - i think this is a generic spam post; maybe y...sue - i think this is a generic spam post; maybe you could just spam-mark it/delete it? (the marriage site thingy...)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4953607740696523736.post-62581190228525714382008-05-03T16:46:00.000-07:002008-05-03T16:46:00.000-07:00Yo, Blog49, I am totally married, and so are many ...Yo, Blog49, I am totally married, and so are many of my readers. We're not looking for breeding partners, so don't be sending your singles here for that purpose. If you want to talk about being childless, that's cool.Sue Fagalde Lickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14740379397806418651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4953607740696523736.post-55888162896468757802008-01-30T16:22:00.000-08:002008-01-30T16:22:00.000-08:00john, i can definitely understand your point. i re...john, i can definitely understand your point. i recently called around to people in my city who specialize in childless and infertility issues -- counselors and such. my first question was, "are you a parent?" and they invariably were.<BR/><BR/>i still think there's something to be said for learning from each other, even if we don't happen to be exactly alike. and i don't believe that it boils down to a world of parents and non-parents. those arguments tend to ignore some of the similarities we might all have -- and also leave very little room for adoptive parents, step-parents, etc.magdalenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16731828150673504665noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4953607740696523736.post-17157421175849676582008-01-29T02:18:00.000-08:002008-01-29T02:18:00.000-08:00Just as a childless person is unlikely to write a ...Just as a childless person is unlikely to write a book about parenting, I believe ideally, a childless by choice (also known as childfree) book should be written by a CBC person, unless it is an academic type book rather than a supportive type book.<BR/><BR/>So yes, I would prefer to read this type of book from a non-parent or non-wants to be a parent.Johnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04984651112463067927noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4953607740696523736.post-53439447945882230552008-01-11T14:15:00.000-08:002008-01-11T14:15:00.000-08:00I do think that a mother can write about childless...I do think that a mother can write about childlessness, though her view will obviously be altered by the reality that she eventually wanted and had children. <BR/><BR/>I, too, am troubled by this bullshit idea that the world consists solely of Happy Selfish Breeders and Happily Self-Righteous Child-free People, and they must fight to the bitter end. <BR/><BR/>I say this as someone who spent most of her life happily childfree by choice, who wrote articles about child-free/childless living for books and magazines, and who took some flak for it. I also say this as someone who now understands a *little* more about parenting, because I have a stepdaughter who lives with me half-time. I also say this as someone who ended up *wanting* to have a biological baby, but who has chosen not to for reasons of health, circumstance, staying with my partner and family, and just plain life. <BR/><BR/>The Internet encourages us to be simplistic and one-dimensional in our arguments. The relative facelessness of encounters online tend to encourage shrill self-righteousness and cruelty that we'd never do (or put up with from others) in real life. Once again, I'd like to think my opinion on this can be backed up. I've been deeply involved in online community since 1992. <BR/><BR/>Well, I think I'll ponder this whole issue for a bit more & make some big ol' gigantic post at my blog, http://magdalen.blogs.com/nymphe once I have a better handle on it…. Thanks for bringing this up, Sue.magdalenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16731828150673504665noreply@blogger.com