tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4953607740696523736.post7224355859636025391..comments2023-07-21T06:19:27.125-07:00Comments on Childless by Marriage: New focus for Childless by Marriage bookSue Fagalde Lickhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14740379397806418651noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4953607740696523736.post-52828226417655483902016-05-29T10:54:58.414-07:002016-05-29T10:54:58.414-07:00I feel for each and every one of you. I am in my s...I feel for each and every one of you. I am in my second year of marriage. My husband has a daughter and we just welcomed our second grandchild into the world. My hubby is 45 and I am 33 so there is already the age difference. I've always wanted to be a mother and always saw my life with at least 2 of my own. Well hubby has been there, done that and at his age. Being a grandfather is his priority now. I too sit back watching him with the kids and get sad... I don't know at this point. 4 years together & married 2 of them. I'm not sure I could forgive something I've wanted all my life! Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07537905094789906098noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4953607740696523736.post-28907921131087750672015-07-01T15:47:11.708-07:002015-07-01T15:47:11.708-07:00Not so different, Anonymous. My husband's kids...Not so different, Anonymous. My husband's kids were also glad to let me handle him while he was sick with Alzheimer's while they stayed away and lived their lives. One didn't even show up for the funeral. The grandkids did call me "Grandma" when they were small, but now . . . if we passed on the street, I'm not sure they'd recognize me. <br />I'm sorry you're in this fix. Sue Fagalde Lickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14740379397806418651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4953607740696523736.post-7172757639505764392015-07-01T14:08:22.583-07:002015-07-01T14:08:22.583-07:00What you say makes total sense to me.
I'm ch...What you say makes total sense to me.<br /><br /><br />I'm childless because of decisions made by my husband. My mother has just died - I had to beg to get my husband to let her move in with us - she had dementia - and husband had a stroke two years ago. I guess I'm in a similar position to you - except his grown up kids are 'so glad' that their dad has me. <br /><br />He has one granddaughter. It was made clear to me that I couldn't even be an honorary aunt, never mind step grandmother. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4953607740696523736.post-25640740192200830462012-01-30T17:15:25.055-08:002012-01-30T17:15:25.055-08:00Unknown,
You have made my day. Thank you so much f...Unknown,<br />You have made my day. Thank you so much for your support and understanding.Sue Fagalde Lickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14740379397806418651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4953607740696523736.post-47928760058326187582012-01-30T17:01:48.197-08:002012-01-30T17:01:48.197-08:00Sue, I often come to your posts so late and someti...Sue, I often come to your posts so late and sometimes "after the fact." That said, I usually respond anyway thinking that perhaps my tardiness is for a "higher reason." How's that for rationalization. LOL<br /><br />I think your "new focus" for the book is awesome and important! Sometimes the "stuff" that keeps pushing its way into our consciousness is there because it is pointing us in the direction we need to go. In fact, this probably happens *most* of the time--not just sometimes. Would you agree?<br /><br />When I step outside of the emotion I feel about your situation, I find myself saying, "Wow, what an amazing story," about your life thus far, Sue. The choices you've made have led you to where you are and who you are becoming. Obviously, this book is about your life story--not just being childless by marriage--and that is why it hasn't been published...yet!<br /><br />The irony of caring for your spouse as if he were a child is so profound and I'm just certain there is a spiritual lesson in all of this--not just for you. I'm excited to see how this all unfolds.<br /><br />Keep on!Dana Lucashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14884438837795395079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4953607740696523736.post-44828032294854398652012-01-10T19:41:38.966-08:002012-01-10T19:41:38.966-08:00A Three Dog Life is a great book. Thank you for yo...A Three Dog Life is a great book. Thank you for your support, Tracy.Sue Fagalde Lickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14740379397806418651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4953607740696523736.post-83269044209292830342012-01-10T18:48:22.942-08:002012-01-10T18:48:22.942-08:00Sue - I think you need to include it - it's re...Sue - I think you need to include it - it's relevant information and includes a possible scenario that women contemplating becoming "childless by marriage" need to consider. I'm sure it will be evidence of a wholely unique facet of the love you had for and with your husband. Did you ever read Abigail Thomas' 'A Three Dog Life" - her memoir of life after her husband suffers a severe brain injury? Amazing book. I think these chapters of yours would be like that. Looking forward to reading it...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4953607740696523736.post-2645740631338163392012-01-09T16:55:35.781-08:002012-01-09T16:55:35.781-08:00Andi, thank you. Millicent, I know exactly what yo...Andi, thank you. Millicent, I know exactly what you mean, and that's I didn't mention the Alzheimer's in the book before. Even now, it's not the whole book, just two chapters in the story of a 28-year relationship. We'll see if it works.Sue Fagalde Lickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14740379397806418651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4953607740696523736.post-86770686373364436242012-01-09T15:04:12.448-08:002012-01-09T15:04:12.448-08:00I think it is two separate issues. Perhaps two dif...I think it is two separate issues. Perhaps two different books or articles (in my opinion). But that does not mean it is not important or significant to write, to publish to have folks share. As an only child of an only child who had no children either, and who had had to face health issues with a spouse, I can certainly sympathize.Millicenthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02589166262636579383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4953607740696523736.post-29252239692263211182012-01-09T14:56:03.635-08:002012-01-09T14:56:03.635-08:00Sue. Just this bit of story catches my breath. So ...Sue. Just this bit of story catches my breath. So powerful. Cannot wait to read your boom.Andihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13059619056144553609noreply@blogger.com