tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4953607740696523736.post3718168926369305022..comments2023-07-21T06:19:27.125-07:00Comments on Childless by Marriage: Are you a childless stepparent?Sue Fagalde Lickhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14740379397806418651noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4953607740696523736.post-24625260832127026922011-09-22T08:54:50.036-07:002011-09-22T08:54:50.036-07:00Lily,
Thank you for sharing this. I know wasn'...Lily,<br />Thank you for sharing this. I know wasn't easy. Hang in there and love your stepson and your husband. <br />SueSue Fagalde Lickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14740379397806418651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4953607740696523736.post-53829324744052991262011-09-22T02:13:57.580-07:002011-09-22T02:13:57.580-07:00Dear Sue
Not sure how I came by your blog, but ov...Dear Sue<br /><br />Not sure how I came by your blog, but over the past week or so I've been working my way through the postings and comments. I've done a lot of crying while doing so!. <br /><br />I am 42 and my partner is the same age and we met at University and were best friends before we got together 10 years ago. In the meantime, he had a son (now aged 13) and therefore I have known my stepson since before he was born. We have a rather special relationship and I think its healthy. However, he's coming up to 14 now and I want to make sure I continue to have a good relationship with him through the teenage years. I love him and he's very important to me as I didn't have kids of my own (just didn't happen, even though I wanted it to - maybe I'll tell you more about that in another post).<br /><br />I work MUCH harder at the relationship with him, than his father does and it is an absolute fact that the father would not have seen as much of the boy - or have anything like the good relationship he does now - if it had not been for me pushing him to arrange access, visits, etc. I arrange all the diary events and weekend treats. I do all the shopping and childcare. I know what he is allergic to and what his tastes are. I even know what his secret 'on-line gaming' alter ego is. his father knows none of this! Yes his father is - obviously - the one who gets the love and I have to admit it hurts me. <br /><br />I am fed up of 'real' mothers telling me its different when it's your own. Yes, I know it's different!! I hate being excluded from the 'advice circles' because I am not his biological mother. I badly wanted to be a mother but had to settle for something else. It has brought me to tears just writing this down and it's something I haven't been able to discuss with anyone else, so I am glad to have found your blog.<br /><br />Lily xAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com