tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4953607740696523736.post3623447029913998052..comments2023-07-21T06:19:27.125-07:00Comments on Childless by Marriage: Childlessness by marriage: It's a question of timingSue Fagalde Lickhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14740379397806418651noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4953607740696523736.post-63521195327452479762012-03-18T08:42:37.287-07:002012-03-18T08:42:37.287-07:00Thanks for the kind responses. It is a nice chang...Thanks for the kind responses. It is a nice change to feel like someone understands.<br /><br />LibbyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4953607740696523736.post-11815518725848436922012-03-12T19:37:24.368-07:002012-03-12T19:37:24.368-07:00Amen, Olivia!Amen, Olivia!Sue Fagalde Lickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14740379397806418651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4953607740696523736.post-3914238894390002602012-03-12T16:48:23.239-07:002012-03-12T16:48:23.239-07:00That's such a tough situation you've descr...That's such a tough situation you've described. We think of choices and options and freedom as being such a good thing, but the downside is that they leave us with so many variables to navigate. It can make it difficult to make peace with the way things are. <br /><br />To Libby, the previous poster, it is a terrible feeling to have your deepest desires dismissed like this. Often people who are encouraging others to 'think positively' have no idea of the pain they're bulldozing through.oliviahttp://readinginthebath.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4953607740696523736.post-4714605046311999272012-03-12T16:45:31.061-07:002012-03-12T16:45:31.061-07:00That's such a tough situation you've descr...That's such a tough situation you've described. We think of choices and options and freedom as being such a good thing, but the downside is that they leave us with so many variables to navigate. It can make it difficult to make peace with the way things are. <br /><br />To Libby, the previous poster, it is a terrible feeling to have your deepest desires dismissed like this. Often people who are encouraging others to 'think positively' have no idea of the pain they're bulldozing through.oliviahttp://readinginthebath.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4953607740696523736.post-21138635923600440342012-03-12T09:29:19.981-07:002012-03-12T09:29:19.981-07:00Dear Libby,
Thank you for sharing this. Your story...Dear Libby,<br />Thank you for sharing this. Your story is so similar to mine and to that of so many people. It hurts. You have suffered a big loss, the loss of the children you might have had, and people should acknowledge that. Unfortunately, they don't understand. Hang in there. It is good that you have such a wonderful man. And it's okay to remind people that you are hurting over not having children. You don't have to "get over it." Take care.<br />SueSue Fagalde Lickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14740379397806418651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4953607740696523736.post-12360753631369888172012-03-12T05:14:26.637-07:002012-03-12T05:14:26.637-07:00My husband and I married when I was 32 and he was ...My husband and I married when I was 32 and he was 45. He has two grown children from a previous marriage. They are nice kids but they don't need, nor want, anything from me except the occasional bit of financial support. <br /><br />I used to believe I was ok without kids, but that has changed, the longer I have been with my husband. I'll be 40 in June and the biological alarm clock is ringing so loudly now that I can hardly hear anything else these days, but he has no interest in starting a second family at this late date. <br /> <br />You know what the worst part is for me? Having everyone around me basically dismiss my deepest, most honest desires. Even my own parents, the very people who taught me just how important family is, are encouraging me to count my blessings, to dwell on the things I have and not the huge and gaping hole where my child should be. "He's such a good man, you should be so thankful." Well of course he's a good man. He's the best man I've ever known and I love him so dearly. I waited a long time for a real partner in life, and now I have one in so many ways. But what the hell does that have to do with anything? <br /><br />Some days are better than others. There are still days, once in a while, wen I don't think about it much. And there are days when I wonder whether I'll explode all at once or just slowly unravel at the seams.<br /><br />LibbyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com