tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4953607740696523736.post2320944100834936747..comments2023-07-21T06:19:27.125-07:00Comments on Childless by Marriage: B is for Baby, the One You May Never HaveSue Fagalde Lickhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14740379397806418651noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4953607740696523736.post-53559913127799996592015-05-26T18:42:22.545-07:002015-05-26T18:42:22.545-07:00T is for thank you for your kind words, Anonymous ...T is for thank you for your kind words, Anonymous May 25. It makes me happy to know I can help at least a little bit. Sue Fagalde Lickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14740379397806418651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4953607740696523736.post-53798936496707087942015-05-25T00:18:18.050-07:002015-05-25T00:18:18.050-07:00B is for bless your precious heart. Discovering th...B is for bless your precious heart. Discovering this blog is getting me through a particularly bad day. Thank you for your openness and creating a space where I feel a little less crazy. Knowing I'm not alone in this might just help the healing begin.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4953607740696523736.post-22675577984852771102014-04-12T12:52:34.293-07:002014-04-12T12:52:34.293-07:00Anonymous, I would never tell someone to get a div...Anonymous, I would never tell someone to get a divorce but I fear that you will become middle aged and then have missed out on the joy of children, for your husband's "hobbies".Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4953607740696523736.post-79462204801832949382014-04-12T10:09:18.847-07:002014-04-12T10:09:18.847-07:00Oh Anonymous, I wish this would stop happening to ...Oh Anonymous, I wish this would stop happening to people. In my mother's era, they would have just had a baby. None of this "maybe I don't want one" stuff. I hate this. You are definitely not alone. If you've been reading here, you know you have lots of sisters in the same situation. If you don't want to leave your husband, we can only hope he changes his mind. I wish you all the best. Sue Fagalde Lickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14740379397806418651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4953607740696523736.post-79048562488536743012014-04-12T10:00:52.382-07:002014-04-12T10:00:52.382-07:00I just stumbled on your blog and it has made me fe...I just stumbled on your blog and it has made me feel much better to know there are others in similar situations as myself. I am in my mid thirties and my husband is in his late thirties. We have been married for six years and together for 9. Prior to getting married we discussed having kids and though neither of us were baby-crazy it was agreed that we would when the time was right. Well flash forward to now and for the past year we have been in a stalemate as I really want children and r has decided that he never wants children. I feel deceived and trapped. We have been to counselling and I even agreed to not bring it up for a year (which I did) so that he could think. As the year was up he still says he doesn't want kids because he wants more time for his hobbies. I feel sick about it. His hobbies seem to be trumping my desire for a family. I've discussed divorce (not that I really want out of the marriage which is others wise good) but don't see a solution and an only imagine becoming more resentful as he carries on with his hobbies and I don't get to live out the life we envisioned . Still stuck and don't know where to turn or what to do but am relieved that I'm not alone in this struggle. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4953607740696523736.post-85145404305760409972014-04-02T20:30:18.426-07:002014-04-02T20:30:18.426-07:00Honestly, I'm not sure what I could give for a...Honestly, I'm not sure what I could give for advice to any of them. The only really serious relationship I was in was with my husband and when we were engaged and planning our live together, it included children. We didn't change our minds about having them, we just had to change the way we got them (adoption versus birthing them ourselvles). Had either one of us changed our minds after we were married, I'm not sure what our ultimate decision would have been, but I would like to think we would have reached some type of mutual agreement and kept the relationship together.<br /><br />not much help here<br /><br />bettybettyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06323135450742337670noreply@blogger.com