tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4953607740696523736.post2103041099051937877..comments2023-07-21T06:19:27.125-07:00Comments on Childless by Marriage: Is he worth it?Sue Fagalde Lickhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14740379397806418651noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4953607740696523736.post-17683423166787199602010-04-10T12:31:07.144-07:002010-04-10T12:31:07.144-07:00We all need a crystal ball!
I had those thoughts...We all need a crystal ball! <br />I had those thoughts at 30....35....36...39. Now I'm 42. Why didn't I listen to my inner voice? Trust me, your feelings will only get stronger. The older you get the clearer it becomes. It's too bad it works that way, as for me, by the time I figured it out, it was too late.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4953607740696523736.post-18470314025855970842009-11-30T15:19:47.616-08:002009-11-30T15:19:47.616-08:00I am so glad to have found this website as all the...I am so glad to have found this website as all the other blogs seem all to tell me to leave my partner. I love him to pieces and so does he but is not considering having other children. He had an unwanted child at a very young age and does not feel he is capable of truly feeling in his heart that he wants to have another child. He says he prefers to not have another child if it is not something he truly wants as he knows how hurtful this would be to the child. He also feels like he has given so much so young that he wants to become stable in life before engaging into such a hard decision. I understand and I never really had the pull to have children before I met him. I don't know if I would have that desire with another man. So I am left with this dilemma within myself. What is more important, risking possibly wanting a baby with someone that I don't know that I would want one with or staying with the man that I love.At present, I am happy but I don't know if that will change. I guess the question is do I live for the present or for the future. I have made the decision to see a psychologist on this issue before making a decision. I hope you will all find peace with your decision.tornhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10711536519260781698noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4953607740696523736.post-14790446783608360912009-11-13T14:48:43.634-08:002009-11-13T14:48:43.634-08:00Its a great time for me to be reading all of your ...Its a great time for me to be reading all of your words. I am about to move to another country to be with a man that is not ready for children. I am almost 'expired' (age:41). I have never had a strong urge for children, but lately I feel as if I will feel empty if I don't experience this. People with children seem to have that frantic survived-chaos look that adds 'life' to peoples lives. Whereas my life, while it may be rewarding, often feels i have to continuously ask myself 'what to do with my time now?'. Perhaps I am succumbing to 'bearing children = normal' syndrome. I have presented the boyfriend with my option B: have him impregnate me and stay in my country to raise a child on my own. Tough decision: enjoy a childless life with your potentially greatest love or raising a child alone?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14566207219285511254noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4953607740696523736.post-21252204298663829962009-11-12T17:58:56.193-08:002009-11-12T17:58:56.193-08:00I also left my home land, a good job and great fri...I also left my home land, a good job and great friends to be with my partner. I've known from the start that he will probably never want to have children. It never used to bother me as I used to feel the same. But the older I get and in particular now that I'm living in a country where I have no family of my own and no close friends, I'm starting to feel slightly differently about motherhood. I would never pressure him to have a child with me to satisfy my needs. But sometimes I wonder if I've made a mistake. I do love him. What are my options? Stay with him and hopefully have a good life, even if childless, with him? Leave him, and perhaps find a man willing to have a family with me? How could I though when my partner is the one I love. I really thought I was more or less decided against the idea of having children. So why am I starting to feel differently...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4953607740696523736.post-48052281402006038402009-10-19T16:37:48.741-07:002009-10-19T16:37:48.741-07:00I was 38 yo when my husband would not give into gi...I was 38 yo when my husband would not give into giving me a child [his troubled teenager daughter fueled his feelings] At 38 I thought what were my chances of finding a nice man, get married and get pregnant in a few short year? Slim to none so I stayed. I do have me regrets and today is one of them.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com