tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4953607740696523736.post4237430940396290480..comments2023-07-21T06:19:27.125-07:00Comments on Childless by Marriage: Must childless stepmothers and their stepchildren hate each other? Sue Fagalde Lickhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14740379397806418651noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4953607740696523736.post-23363590114459604002016-07-06T11:31:55.332-07:002016-07-06T11:31:55.332-07:00I am a childless stepmother and adore my step chil...I am a childless stepmother and adore my step children and we have a good relationship thank God (God willing that'll always continue). I never wanted my own children so don't have any resentment about my partner's relationship with the children. I always make sure I keep out of things that don't concern me where the children are concerned as I know I am not their mother, however, they know that I would always be there for them if they need to talk or for support. I have a good relationship with their mother which keeps things peaceful. The only difficulty can be things like money as I have more disposable income than my partner as I don't have children, however, we work around it.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15880252952026965418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4953607740696523736.post-14562303333529695192013-10-13T09:58:10.878-07:002013-10-13T09:58:10.878-07:00I was fine with my stepmom until my dad won a cust...I was fine with my stepmom until my dad won a custody battle for my sister and I in a kangaroo court, got married a week before sending the police to chase us down so he could throw us in the car and move us a state away. It might be because she started beating on a daily basis once we got there... I mean that would cause some ill feelings between parties, one would think. Of course I don't feel so special now, since she adopted a few more kids to beat and torture when we hit 18. Of course my dad's a big league attorney now, so CPS is in their back pocket and they won't do anything about it. She's just a nut in general, I guess. My husband even hates going with me to visit my father because he can't stand the way those kids are treated while we're there. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4953607740696523736.post-10388452088281482272013-09-24T07:18:56.739-07:002013-09-24T07:18:56.739-07:00Anonymous,
That's pretty harsh. There's a...Anonymous, <br />That's pretty harsh. There's a lot of truth to it. Stepparenting is hard and sometimes completely unrewarding. But not all the time. I think every family situation is different, and I know that having your own child is not always joyous and rewarding either. Sue Fagalde Lickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14740379397806418651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4953607740696523736.post-70409413002816393092013-09-23T20:32:53.193-07:002013-09-23T20:32:53.193-07:00Having stepkids does not make you childless by any...Having stepkids does not make you childless by any definition.<br /><br />All it means is doing all of the crap of parenting without ANY of the good stuff. It is the most unrewarding thing imaginable. Unlike having your own child which is overwhelmingly joyous and rewarding. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4953607740696523736.post-26979817510177495092013-09-04T11:50:25.228-07:002013-09-04T11:50:25.228-07:00Boy, did you nail it, Anonymous Sept. 4. That'...Boy, did you nail it, Anonymous Sept. 4. That's exactly what stepparenting is like. And yes, the father gets thanked for the gifts the stepmother buys. Every freaking time. It is so not the same as having your own kids. Thank you for this comment. Sue Fagalde Lickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14740379397806418651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4953607740696523736.post-10117432933107080062013-09-04T11:45:31.241-07:002013-09-04T11:45:31.241-07:00I don't think that it is necessarily similar t...I don't think that it is necessarily similar to motherhood - its a beast of its own. Yes, as a stepmother I deal with the shuttling of kids, the responsibilities of custody and emotional availability, but I don't get the warm kisses because I did something nice for them, I barely get a thank you. I buy birthday gifts and they thank their father. So while I chose my situation, I would not related a step mother to a mother. I think as a step mother, you will only be just that.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4953607740696523736.post-62051963681618965042013-07-04T18:27:10.995-07:002013-07-04T18:27:10.995-07:00Good points, Anonymous. It's not the same, but...Good points, Anonymous. It's not the same, but stepmothering is certainly a form of parenting that can bridge the gap between being childless and being a mother. <br />Sue Fagalde Lickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14740379397806418651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4953607740696523736.post-61591025592065977612013-07-04T17:43:43.956-07:002013-07-04T17:43:43.956-07:00I don't particular consider a childless stepmo...I don't particular consider a childless stepmother to be truly childless. She is a stepmother. She gets to mother, even if the kids have a "real" mother. She is also acceptable to society, whereas truly childless (or childfree) women really are not. Just my opinion.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com